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Taking a step of faith

Posted by Steve and Casey Cretsinger on Wednesday, December 21st, 2011
it can be about impossible to get a group of Africans to smile for the camera!  Our group has grown a little since this photo, but these our guys!

it can be about impossible to get a group of Africans to smile for the camera! Our group has grown a little since this photo, but these are our guys!

A few months ago Steve and I started talking about wanting to do a Bible Study with the group of teenage guys who spend most of their afternoons at our home.  It’s a little scary at first to think about doing public Bible teaching in a group.  We never forget that Christianity goes against their religion and their beliefs.  Their religion (and I can’t use the specific title here) affects every aspect of their life…so, openly teaching about Christ is a big deal.  Of course, we share about our personal faith with people on a one-on-one basis, but a group Bible study is a much different story.  We spent a lot of time praying about it and in the end decided that we just couldn’t go on NOT teaching them.  We needed to be faithful to speak up and see where it led us.

It has been such a great experience for our entire family.  Our boys love Thursday nights when the whole group comes over to eat.  They hang out for a while when they first get here – playing foosball with Micah or coloring with Ephraim are the big hits!  Then it’s eating all together…let me tell you, those boys can eat!  One of their moms is the woman who does the cooking for us and when she first told us how much rice she would need each week I couldn’t believe it was true.  But, each week not a drop of food is left over.

Steve is going through the book, “The Lamb”, with the guys right now.  We wanted to start with something that wasn’t extremely threatening to them.  This book is one we’ve used with our own boys to clearly explain creation, sin, sacrifice and our need for a Savior.  Much of the story the teenagers are familiar with – it’s the details that have been changed to suit their religion.  We want to start at the beginning and lay the right foundation so they clearly see where the differences started and what affect it has.  After Steve goes through the chapter he asks questions to see if they are following him…yes, we are using candy as incentive for getting the answer right (hey, whatever works!).  They are asking good questions themselves and we are so thankful that we are taking these relationships deeper.

Keep praying for this group of young men.  Pray that they would see the truth of God’s Word.  Pray that they would have the courage to seek this truth.  Pray that we would communicate in a clear way that brings God glory!

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It’s important to them…

Posted by Steve and Casey Cretsinger on Wednesday, December 21st, 2011
Getting some action shots

Getting some action shots

Soccer is a VERY important part of life over here.  Soccer is THE sport.  I’m amazed when I see boys and young men running in 120 degree heat gearing up for a big match.  Every boy dreams of becoming a famous soccer player.  The market walls are lined with uniforms from all different countries.  When you live in a pretty remote village with no means of transporation and nothing much to do – a soccer match with a rival village team is a big deal.  Notices are written down, (and then usually brought to my house for me to make photocopies) passed around to different groups, and everyone shows up at the soccer field to watch the big game.

It’s just a gravel field at the edge of the village, just homemade goals, but you’d think they are celebrities.  If it’s going to be a big match then they rent speakers and microphone so there can be announcers yelling loudly through the whole thing.  Our village just had a week long soccer match with different grades playing each afternoon.  The boys who spend their afternoons at our house were playing one afternoon, so Steve went with the boys to cheer them on.  He took a ton of pictures and then when they came over for Bible Study he played them as a slideshow.  They loved it.

It may seem like a trival thing, but we want to be involved even in the soccer games.  Whatever is important to them needs to become important to us.  We need to show our neighbors that we care about the things they care about.  It’s the only way that we can become a part of the community.  Praying for these moments of outreach…

Such serious determination

Such serious determination

Presenting the team

Presenting the team

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Gathering together

Posted by Steve and Casey Cretsinger on Wednesday, December 21st, 2011
Our family at our Christmas dinner during conference

Our family at our Christmas dinner during conference

School is out for a few weeks…I’ve been looking forward to this little break from the busy routine.  It’s nice to have time to visit with the people coming to the house because I’m not trying to teach the kids at the same time.  Although, now that they know I’m on a break, it seems that EVERYONE needs to come and ask me something.  I had big plans that I was going to make the kids do more schoolwork during this break so it all stayed “fresh” in their minds, but it just isn’t happening – not that the boys mind too much!

We had our annual field conference all last week.  A guest speaker and his family came over from the States to encourage us during morning meetings.  It was nice to hear a hear someone new share things from a new perspective.  It was a very full week of meetings and events, but our kids loved the non-stop action of being with their friends.  Here’s a few photos from the week…

We had a kids day with games and activities...water balloons are a big hit over here.

We had a kids day with games and activities...water balloons are a big hit over here.

Trying to catch those water balloons being launched at them

Trying to catch those water balloons being launched at them

All our missionary kids!

All our missionary kids!

The kids did a Christmas play and Malachi was a woodcutter

The kids did a Christmas play and Malachi was a woodcutter

Micah in the play at a rapping Jesus - Ephraim is one of his rapping disciples.

Micah in the play at a rapping Jesus - Ephraim is one of his rapping disciples.

All our missionary kids singing Christmas carols at the end of their play

All our missionary kids singing Christmas carols at the end of their play

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Grilling out

Posted by Steve and Casey Cretsinger on Tuesday, September 27th, 2011
New experiences

New experiences

Yeah, I’m not sure why we feel the need to create a fire and roast hot dogs when it’s SO unbelievably hot.  Maybe because we’re from Michigan and this is just what you do in the Fall.  Maybe because I’m really sick of cooking and this was a super easy meal for a group of boys.  Whatever the reason, we created a little sensation with this “meat on a stick” thing.  As is usually the case, our family really can’t do anything just as a family.  This is good in the sense that we have lots of opportunities for building friendships and bad in the sense that it drives us a little crazy – but that’s a whole other post :)

Anyways, we made our little fire and soon we had very curious boys wondering what we were going to do with this fire.  Yes, they are used to their moms cooking over a fire, but it’s rice and sauce in pots – and there were no pots to be found.  They wondered why Monsieur Steve would be collecting small sticks and sharpening the ends – are we going hunting???  But, then I pulled out the packs of hotdogs and showed them how to put them on the stick.  This whole process of roasting the hot dogs was honestly quite hilarious.  They didn’t like the idea of patiently waiting for the whole hot dog to be ready, so they would heat it up a minute – take a bite and put it back in the fire for another minute.  I have never seen packs of hot dogs be eaten so fast.

For the most part, I love sharing our lives with the people around us.  Yes, there are the moments where I just want to hide when they are calling at the door.  But, we have such an opportunity to get to know people, to show them we care, and live life with them.  That’s what we’re here for!  The next day, people were telling me all about this new food everyone wants to try…but, I’m not sure I’m up for village wide hot dog roasts quite yet!

He's just too funny

He's just too funny

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Not big fans of bees

Posted by Steve and Casey Cretsinger on Sunday, September 18th, 2011
Still swollen more than a day later

Still swollen more than a day later

We’re not big fans of bees around here.  I have shared MANY times my extreme fear of them after Malachi nearly died from an allergic reaction during our first term.  It was honestly the scariest moment of my life when I truly thought I was going to lose my child.  Thankfully one of our co-workers had an epi-pen and we were able to get him breathing again.  We never suspected that he had any type of allergy to bees.

Even Ephraim, who is not allergic to bees, had a major run in with one a few weeks ago that had his eye swollen shut for three days.  Even the bees are tougher here in Africa!  I jokingly said that to someone the other day, but I really think it’s true.

A few days ago, Malachi was climbing high up in a tree when he suddenly jumped out of the tree screaming.  We didn’t have a moment to think of it then, but later realized that he could have easily broken his arms or legs.  He was grasping at his mouth and screaming his lungs out.  By the time we got to him we could already see where he’d been stung.  He started to go into shock and crying that he was going to die.  His vividly remembers the other time that he was stung, the intense hives and his inability to breathe.  We carried him into the shower trying to clean him off and calm him down.  His face was already swelling and the hives were popping out.  We gave him a major dose of Benadryl and didn’t leave his side.  We had his epi-pen ready, but we think that the Benadryl in that large of a dose so close to the time he was stung, probably kept his breathing under control.

He’s had a few days of a very swollen neck and face.  The next day he couldn’t really open his eyes and was pretty out of it.  He loved seeing the reaction on people’s face when they looked at him.  Micah and Ephraim just stared at him.

It’s one of those really hard situations.  I’m sure that many people back in the States would say that they would never bring their child to a country with no medical care in these type of situations.  We’ve had some really scary moments with malaria as well, and I remember people telling me that they could never take their kids away from doctors and hospitals – and instead take them to a country filled with disease.  I understand all those thoughts, believe me, I’ve had the same ones.  Am I crazy to bring my boys here?

But, at the end of the day, I have to ask myself if God is truly in control.  Is He the One who numbers the days of my life – and my child’s life?  Because if He is, then no bee can take Malachi until God says it’s time.  We can keep ourselves only in our “safe places” out of fear of what might happen – and still lose our children.  Or we can put them into God’s hands and follow where He leads – knowing that His plan will happen no matter where we live.

But, we’re still not big fans of bees.

Ending the post on a happy note, swollen but smiling

Ending the post on a happy note, swollen but smiling

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A twist to the school year…

Posted by Steve and Casey Cretsinger on Friday, September 9th, 2011
First day of school - 5th grade, 4th grade, and 1st grade!

First day of school - 5th grade, 4th grade, and 1st grade!

This week “facebook” has been filled with everyone’s posts and photos about the first day of school. It’s hard to believe that we are finishing up our 5th week over here. It’s definitely turning out to be a different kind of year for us.
We were so lacking in teachers for our missionary kids this year that all the mothers came together and are sharing in home schooling responsibilities. So, as a mom who never imagined herself homeschooling, I’m now teaching the 4th grade. Thankfully, Malachi has enough excitement over this turn of events to cover both of us. He is thrilled to have his mom as his teacher – he just wishes that we could have school in our pajamas while still in bed. Instead, we are doing school together with his friend, Aidan, out on our front porch. For the most part I think things are going well. The constant interruptions can be hard to handle from folks in the village who have no idea why school shouldn’t be interrupted. It can make for some very long days without any “mommy time”, but we’re surviving. Who of you is ready to make the move to Guinea and take over schooling our kids?
There is one teacher available and she took on the 5th and 6th grades for the year and so Micah is still leaving the house and heading a real classroom. He would not be so excited to have his mom as his teacher! He is Mr. Social and with only me to entertain, he would be devastated. He is enjoying being a part of a class of six (I know, big numbers over here!). He is still completely obsessed with football and recites all the players and team stats for me on a continual basis. He reminds us frequently that he is missing out on the football season in America and he would make the sacrifice of going back to live with Gramma and Grampa if we wanted him to :)
Ephraim is doing first grade with our co-workers who are also teaching their daughter in the same grade. He is always ready and excited to head out the door in the morning. He is so excited to come home and show us his papers at the end of the morning. He is picking up on reading and getting better everyday. It’s hard to believe that my little boy is in First grade already!
5 weeks down – many, many more to go! I’m sure that this year will be filled challenges, changes and some really great times. We’d appreciate your prayers as we make these adjustments to our ministry and already busy schedule.

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This isn’t a story you’d hear in the States

Posted by Steve and Casey Cretsinger on Wednesday, September 7th, 2011
Bummed he can't go running around with his friends

Bummed he can't go running around with his friends

Do any of you remember the Little House on the Prairie episode where one of the kids falls down a well? Or the news story about the little girl who fell down a hole in her backyard and the whole country watched as she was being rescued? These memories stick in our minds (or maybe just mine) because it’s so out of the ordinary for us. We don’t say “oh yeah, he fell down a well last week” in passing conversation. But, shockingly it happens way too often over here and a few weeks ago we had a huge scare with Moustapha.

Everyone here gets their water from a hand dug well – lowering a bucket down to the bottom and pulling up the water. There are many wells in the process of being dug, or ones that are waiting for the cement walls to be built up around the outside. A group of kids were running through someone’s courtyard and they all ran over a rotting piece of plywood that was covering a well that had been dug, but wasn’t finished. The plywood broke, sending Moustapha down to the bottom of the well. That’s a 60 foot fall…. and into the water at the bottom…and the boy can’t swim…and the bottom is filled with natural gas in the air…yeah, pretty scary. One of the village men was quickly tied to a rope and lowered into the hole to go down and get him. (by the way, he needed to be tied to the rope because the gases in the bottom of the wells make people pass out quickly and they needed to be able to haul them up in case that happened)

They came running in to get us telling us that they had just pulled Moustapha out of the well. This is where our American minds say “WHAT??? You pulled him out of what???” People were starting to gather at the house the way they do when someone is dying! Steve quickly decided that he needed to get him to the hospital for x-rays. His mom was crying so hard that the Father decided she couldn’t go and sent his 2nd wife to the hospital instead. (Imagine that one in the states!)

So, of course, we get to the hospital and find out that there is no power for the x-ray machine, so he’ll have to wait for the next day. God was definitely protecting this little guy. We really expected a lot worse news than just a sprained ankle. They put him in a cast anyways on the back of his foot/leg to keep him from walking on it. But, just a few days later, the cast was off because they said “it needed to be washed”. I laugh even as I write that.

The good news is that Moustapha is again chasing after all the bigger kids (with a little limp that gets better each day). We went to the family that owns the well that he fell in and asked what they were going to go about it since a kid had fallen in it. They looked at us a little funny and said “he was the 4th kid that’s fallen in and no one’s died yet.”

…Let’s see if you count all the cultural differences between us in that story!

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Quite the celebration

Posted by Steve and Casey Cretsinger on Thursday, August 11th, 2011
He's got some amazing moves

He's got some amazing moves

I have a strict rule about dancing in public…I don’t do it.  No, it’s not because I’m against dancing.  I’m just against people watching me.  I was quite pleased that I’d managed to avoid being the center of attention at the various weddings and ceremonies that I’ve gone to over here.  Steve just gives in to the requests and does a little dance to satisfy the crowd.  Well, my luck had to run out sometime, right?

Steve’s very good friend, Mohammed, who works with him every day on every project just got “married”.  Little background here…he came to us months ago to let us know that his girlfriend was expecting a baby and he needed to begin the marriage process.  He gave kola nut to her family as an offering and to let them know that he was serious about marrying her.  Since then, we have been following this marriage journey with him as he seeks to fulfill his obligations to her family.

This is no one step process.  It means talking to a lot of people who each have to give their blessing, giving gifts to all those people and several ceremonies to actually be considered married.  We are learning a lot of culture through this process!  Since Mohammed’s family lives in another village about 10 hours away and Steve is his boss – we are seen as his parents and are responsible for him.  While we are thankful that we can be a part of his life this way – it also means that we get to pay for a lot of things!

Mohammed came to us and told us that Mawa’s family had given him 10 days to put together the wedding ceremony.  He also needed Steve to come and speak as his representative.  Yeah, that’s a new one for us.  Steve sat with Mohammed, the religious leaders of the village, the men of Mawa’s family and the leaders of the neighborhood as they discussed the price that Mohammed would need to pay to marry Mawa.  There’s a crazy amount of things that he needed to buy for the family – rice, bowls, fabric, soap, a suitcase…the list went on and on.  But, he agreed to it (and looked to us with hopeful eyes!).

Which brings us to the ceremony…after days of getting things together (speakers, sound system, gifts, food, fish, chairs…you get the idea) we were ready.  We knew it was going to be a long day and we also knew that there is only so much that Ephraim can handle.  You can be given a time when things will start, but it could be hours after that time that things actually begin.  We had Mohammed call us when it looked close to starting.  We arrived to a yard full of people and were given our usual seats right in the middle of everything (this way everyone can watch us at all times!)

Steve was taken to the “big man” meeting where they finished discussing the bride price.  He said he really didn’t know what was going on since they were speaking in a language other than French.  After a while, they all came back and the head religious leader sat in the center of the circle to begin prayers.  They said prayers, gave out the gifts – all the while Mawa is sitting there waiting to find out if the men in her family will give the final okay for her to be married.

…SO, all this leads us back to the dancing!  Then they start the party…Steve had brought along a dance mix CD that he’d compiled himself for the occasion :)  They start playing the American music and calling out our names.  Normally this is where I just smile politely and stay in my seat, but they weren’t having it at this party.  The next thing I know I find myself in the middle of a huge circle trying not to completely humiliate myself.  What a huge relief it was when my sons decided to steal the show and dance like they were in some kind of competition!  Ephraim went all out with it.  He was HILARIOUS.  He had the entire group laughing their heads off.  I don’t even know where he got all those moves – I just know I was glad that everyone had their eyes on him and not me!

Everyone sitting around as prayers are said

Everyone sitting around as prayers are said

Mawa sitting with her mother waiting to her if the bride price has been accepted

Mawa sitting with her mother waiting to her if the bride price has been accepted

Ephraim and Mohammed

Ephraim and Mohammed

That's my boy

That's my boy

All dressed up Guinean style

All dressed up Guinean style

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This week…

Posted by Steve and Casey Cretsinger on Wednesday, August 10th, 2011
A baby from the village.  I asked her mom why she put eyeliner on her six week old baby and she said "that's just we do" - like it was the most normal thing in the world.

A baby from the village. I asked her mom why she put eyeliner on her six week old baby and she said "that's just we do" - like it was the most normal thing in the world.

Steve, Malachi and our "guard dog" Tongo.  He doesn't really leave the back porch, but I do feel safer with him around at night.

Steve, Malachi and our "guard dog" Tongo. He doesn't really leave the back porch, but I do feel safer with him around at night.

Just a photo I liked of one of the kids in the village that I see a lot of.

Just a photo I liked of one of the kids in the village that I see a lot of.

Yup, it was as bad as it looked.  Ephraim got stung by a bee and his eye was completely swollen shut for three days!

Yup, it was as bad as it looked. Ephraim got stung by a bee and his eye was completely swollen shut for three days!

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Micah hits the double digits

Posted by Steve and Casey Cretsinger on Wednesday, August 10th, 2011
You can tell he wasn't quite feeling himself even though he's smiling

You can tell he wasn't quite feeling himself even though he's smiling

I know it’s been over a month since Micah’s birthday, but what kind of mother would I be if I didn’t post a few pictures of his big day. It’s a pretty big milestone to reach the double digits.  There’s a rule here on the center that you have to be 10 years old to open the sports equipment shed at the playground…believe me, my boys eagerly anticipate turning 10.  It’s quite the rite of passage over here.

The day before Micah’s birthday he woke up with a high fever and complained of a terrible headache.  He spent the day laying around and sleeping.  We hoped he would feel better after a good nights sleep, but he still woke up with the high fever, stomachache and headache.  We started him on a malaria treatment just to be safe.  Not the greatest way to spend your birthday, but he had a good attitude about it.

We made the next day the one to be celebrated.  We spent the day with friends and our usual trip to the pool. (I know it may seem like we are there a lot, but it is seriously the ONLY place we have to go every few weeks)  I was so glad he made such a quick recovery and could enjoy the milestone of turning 10.

Singing Happy Birthday at the pool

Singing Happy Birthday at the pool

Opening the presents from us, Gramma and Grampa that had been sent long ago and hidden away

Opening the presents from us, Gramma and Grampa that had been sent long ago and hidden away

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